Enter the Shadow Valley
Through the Shadow Valley for Love
Enter the Shadow Valley
Come with me through a shadowy valley - it will help you attract the love and the life you want! It can be mysterious, dark, scary, even exciting and fun - but I wouldn't call it easy. Not all people want to go through the Valley, and nor should they, it’s not for them, but for some, it helps us reach the lush green grass, dappled light, freedom and love of the meadow on the other side.
I am talking about inner work, entering our own minds, hearts, patterns and beliefs in order to clear them and reach for a more fulfilled and free life. Important for work, health, relationships, activism. If you are going to love someone for the rest of this life time, and possibly even grow new humans with them, it’s a very good idea to go through the Valley a little before you meet them.
Inner Work changes EVERYTHING!
I used to choose difficult partners and have unhappy relationships. After commencing focussed and deep inner work, the pattern changed. I then chose partners who were a joy to be with. Sure, we both still had issues and patterns – being perfect is impossible so I don't recommend trying!
How can you find that special someone whose brand of tricky is the kind of tricky you can joyfully live with? Most are ok with their partner having issues that will give them a bit of fodder for growth and challenge. But this relationship needs to remain a positive influence on you, your life and the world around you. As soon as you and your vibration changes, you will attract and be attracted to different kinds of people - how we get there is through inner work.
Inner work, therapy, meditation, yoga – there are so many roads that can lead us through the Valley, especially if done with intention. Even when off for a swim you can consciously take your issue, for example a fear of being vulnerable in love again, into the water and ask the waters to help you let it go. You can also see a psychologist, life coach or healer.
I do and recommend this because I know it works…
Being a find love coach, I help you get clear on your goals, and move toward them through inner work, empathetic listening, accountability and transformational tools. Sometimes, I recommend people see a psychologist at the same time as seeing me, or before seeing me. Some people would never go to therapy but seeing a healer or doing some inner work during coaching is doable for them. Whatever works and resonates for you personally, do it!
This isn’t magical thinking, such as ‘if I do this, my soul mate will rock up and life will be rosy’. Relationships are not a walk in the park that fix everything, but they are a call to being more of ourselves, to learn and grow together in love. Clearing stuck energy out of the past will enable you more freedom of choice, and more abundance of love.
Everyone is worthy of love!
I believe we are all worthy of love and that we can choose to live our very best lives. I know that when we do that, we influence the world to be a better place. Goodness knows we all need that in these times. Entering the shadowy valley can be challenging, yes, but the meadow on the other side is so lush and full of love and freedom that it’s definitely worth it. If this is not for you maybe your own version of inner work will help you, it could be playing music, hiking or meditation - whatever you choose, just to do so with intention. Intend that it will change your life for the better and watch the magic happen!!