7 small talk tips for attracting love
So many of us find that initial time of meeting someone a real chore. We’re not interested in small talk – and rightly so, because we want to get to the depths of knowing someone!
This is especially the case for singles who want to meet their life partner. Social situations can be challenging because it feels like a waste of time when you’re stuck talking to, or on a date with, the wrong person. Or worse still - in a relationship with them!
Use these tips to help you navigate social situations. Go forth and see how many small talk conversations that you can actually find fun this week!
1. Give yourself a job. Find out something about the person’s life - how their mind works, how their lifestyle is, and what they values are. You will want to know aspects of these for sure if you’re deciding whether to ask this person to meet up again!
2. Have a List. Know at least three interesting questions that you remember that you can ask in any given social situation. (Writing them yourself is good as you know you, and what you want to know. Here are some ideas to start you off. What lights you up? Where did you grow up? If you had a free day to spend with friends, what would it look like?)
3. Find Fascination. See everyone as interesting even though if, at first glance, they’re not! As an attract love coach who gets the honour of listening deeply to all kinds of people, I can tell you that every single person has a story.
4. Practice Empathy. When someone answers a question, ask another question about their answer. When they’re talking practice being empathic – even if you know for sure that he’s not your man, he’s still a human that could do with a kind ear.
5. Bring Balance. Share something of yourself too. Sometimes conversation can feel like a one way street. If you are only listening, it can be exhausting and does not feel like the other person is coming to the connection party. They may be nervous and over talking. Whatever the case, make sure you weave in some of what matters to you. (Imagine zipping up your lips if it’s you who is a little out of balance and nervous-talking). Even if this person is not someone you want to spend your life with, it’s a great practice to note the energetics in a relationship and bring back some balance.
6. Trust the Flow. The Universe works in mysterious ways, so maybe this 5 minute chat, as futile as it can seem sometimes, will bring you a golden nugget. They may say something that shifts your perception and changes the course of your life, or the chat may end at exactly the perfect time for you to run into that old, sexy flame at the shops on the way home!
7. Cultivate positivity. Our physiology can determine how we feel. Before entering social situations, or when randomly meeting people, take a deeper breath, stand in a confident stance and show your gorgeous smile. This, done consciously to cultivate a positive frame of mind will help you do just that.
Have fun gorgeous ones! I’d love to hear how you go practicing these tips, and what insights and experiences you gain. Make sure you message me to let me know!