Your List

Have you thought about Your List?

Today’s blog is all about your List – what it is, why you need it and how to do it! The results can be pretty amazing and uncannily accurate when it contributes to you actually meeting someone special and possibly even the love of your life! ….…

Your list is a list you write full of the qualities, values and lifestyle choices you want to have in the partner you want to welcome into your life.  Specific demographics like how old the person would be, how tall they would be, what kind of job they would have is certainly not as important as the qualities and values and lifestyle they prefer. In fact I recommend leaving those off all together as the Great Mystery needs to be left to unfold..

Your List also encompasses the relationship itself. Would it be a supportive connection you’d have with your love, would you both be affectionate, interdependent and so on?

I reckon you wouldn’t want someone who is always on the couch watching tv, who thinks an interesting conversation is a pain in the boonty! Lol (A quick thought, will people know what I mean by bootie? An online search for ‘synonyms for buttocks’ did not come up with boonty. It must be an Australian thing).

There are so many reasons to write your list and connect with the energies on it regularly. The most important being it’s so much easier to reach a destination if we know what the address we are heading for is! If you simply say, ‘I want a life partner’ you could end up in love with someone who can’t stand yoga people, thinks concreting your garden is a lovely plan or who thinks ‘supportive’ means they should ‘help you’ around the house! Um….. it’s everyone’s job!  ; )

It’s more effective to say, ‘I want a life partner who is caring, loves a laugh, is fit and has integrity’ – that way you are clear about what you want and you will recognise him when he rocks up.

Another reason to have your List sorted is that you can engage with the positive feelings your list brings up in you. If having this person and relationship in your life will help you feel connected, joyful and radiant then experiencing those feelings on a regular basis is a really good idea! It will connect you with what you have deeply considered and put on your list, in turn helping you energetically be a vibrational match for the person you want to meet!

The Universe provides in mysterious ways though, so be very careful what you ask for! I asked for someone who was really naturally minded, down to earth. My husband Yasu only likes machines if they play music!  I also like to joke that he’s allergic to ‘things’ because if I want to get a new table or something he’s not so happy, as he prefers space to clutter. Lol he has gotten a bit more relaxed about it these days though.

How to write your List

 1. Get into the right energetic by some prep. Perhaps a walk, a bath or some journaling. Choose something that brings you home to you.

2. Write the qualities, values and lifestyle choices you want to your partner to hold.

3. Jot down aspects of the relationship itself that you want – mutually supportive, monogamous, fun and so on.

4. Make sure to include how you want to feel in the relationship - what qualities and values you yourself want to embody.

5. A fun to add if you want to, is some Green Flags. What aspect of someone new you are getting to know would be a really groovy tick next to their name in your mind? Perhaps it would be if they were a passionate business owner and living their purpose, if they were a musician, or extra kind to everyone and anyone?

What now?

After you’ve written your List, what should you do with it?

I really recommend keeping it somewhere visible and make it very beautiful. Perhaps add colour, drawings, stickers – perhaps a beautiful border. You could even frame it or keep it in a special envelope. Putting effort into your List shows your highest self, your mind, and the Universe that you mean business. You’re serious about meeting your special person, and you want them to resonate with what you want for your life and be a gorgeous, quality human that you will feel joyful about sharing your heart with!! Why have anything else?

Feel the Feeling of the Wish Fulfilled

Engage in a fun loving way with your list regularly. Read it, colour it, add to it, pop it under your pillow from time to time. This will help you bring the positive feelings that this future reality will bring into your life into your body and whole energy system. Doing this, or, ‘feeling the feeling of the wish fulfilled’ as I have heard it described, will help bring it into your present experience!

Have fun!  I SO want to hear how you go with it. Please comment here, or email me at shannon@welcomelastinglove.com and let me know how it goes!

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Take care, wonderful one and remember to let your love-light shine!