The 3 aspects of Intuitive Dating
Have you ever used your intuition and found that it helped you avoid something painful, or helped you get something wonderful? This month’s blog is about intuitive dating, and how to deepen your intuition to make dating more fun! It will also yield better results, especially if you want to get off the dating train and start a wonderful new journey with one special person…..
What is Intuitive Dating?
Intuitive dating is about approaching dating differently. Really, we can choose to approach anything from a more intuitive place, but with love it’s especially important as this is your life partner we are talking about you finding!
“You have a wonderful internal guidance system called your intuition, and you know what is best for you. You may simply need support to spot recurring patterns, interrupt them and change mindsets - which can be a game changer for receiving a wonderful relationship into your life. I recommend using your intuition for absolutely everything!” Shannon Ichikawa - Welcome Lasting Love
Intuitive shopping for example is important, but whether you get the blue or the red towel is not going to make such a profound difference to your life. When choosing people to get to know with a view to dating, you want to intuitively take actions that get you visioning what you want, meeting more people you resonate with, connecting with them and then getting to know people intuitively also.
According to intuition expert Laura Day, “…intuitive dating is the ability to connect with the relationship you want before it comes into your life—and then to attract, recognize and sustain it when it does.” She says this because when you do meet a potential mate, you are already aligned and ready to be in relationship with the beautiful soul you have intentionally attracted.
Self-Connection
The most important thing when developing your intuition is listening to yourself and knowing what you want and like. If you’re not tuned into what you want and need for your own life, how can you tune into that deeper sense when you want to make the most aligned choices and how can you communicate your needs to others?
Here are some journal prompts to help you learn more about yourself as you navigate intuitive dating. What kind of people do you love hanging out with? What kind of places do you like to go to on your own ? What do you like to do with friends ? What activities would you like enjoy with your future partner? Do you prefer to pay for your own dinner on a date? Are you comfortable with people opening doors for you ? Do you want to step into deeper conversation more quickly, or are you happy with small talk? (Note – a lot of people find small talk a bit boring or uncomfortable, but I do recommend learning to enjoy it if you can, because deep stuff is important however so is the ability to keep things light and fun. Read this blog for more info on small talk https://www.welcomelastinglove.com/blog/small-talk-tips).
A powerful manifestation hack that really works is to tune into the voices of your Higher Self and therefore a Higher Divinity or energy. While I’m still learning to connect to the Divine myself, I can definitely feel a bigger energy when I easily manifest things, experiences and people. Those whispers that we hear are very important to listen to.
It’s best to avoid getting lost in thought about whether the whispers are coming from your own mind, your higher self, or what some people would call the Universe or God. What’s important is that we listen to the nudges and follow them.
For example, last year a local spa was having an event and I had an intuitive sense that I should go – I knew I was going to win a door prize. I knew this because a massage from that very spa was on my vision board that year, so the event being on felt like a divine whisper. As Wayne Dyer once said, “If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you”.
Naturally, I did win it. When I am hustling to win something, it does not align as easily as when I just have a knowing about it. This stuff actually works! It is magic but you don’t just put your order in and you get what you want. You do need to feel into the energy of what you want and how you’re going to feel when it comes into your life.
Meeting people
As you meet new people on dating apps, in MeetUp groups, in real life and so on, tuning into the energies you’re picking up, the thoughts you’re having and how you feel is a practice I recommend embracing! These are all important aspects of using your intuition for dating. It’s a very fine line between discerning what’s positive and loving and what has the potential to be damaging or send you into a negative downward spiral. Both great and very challenging experiences can be for your highest good and meant to be. However, I imagine that you want to attract someone you can be in a positive and wonderful relationship with. Rather than a relationship that’s compelling or interesting at first, but is actually a repeat of a difficult pattern you previously had, resulting in missing red flags and ending up with someone that’s a drain on your life and energy rather than lifting you up. I know the difference as I have experienced choosing both types of relationships. The positive ones were after loads of inner work, counselling and reflection.
A great vibe or headspace before you go into a situation where you may meet new people or engage with people online helps. Meditation, going for a walk to tune in to yourself and your own energy, or doing some journaling helps. A higher vibe energetic space will helps get better results! With the intention to use your intuition, slowly but surely intuitive dating becomes more available to you.
Navigating the journey
There will be enjoyable communication and some tricky bits to iron out with people. Reading non-verbal cues and deciding on how to act on them is an aspect of intuitive relating. If your date seems distracted and not present, you may feel angry. On the other hand, your intuition could tell you to give them some space and time - sometimes it’s good to listen to that voice. They may have had an intense day and need a few moments before a connected conversation. Then again, they may always be distracted and not present and do you really want that in your life? So that discernment, listening to those inner voices and also tending to your own needs and wants in a relationship is essential so you can decide on your course of action.
"See the Light in Others, and Treat Them as if That is All you See" is a famous quote by Wayne Dyer. I take this to mean treat people as if it's all you see, at the same time as tuning into what you want and need, then, intuitively choose your further interactions from that place.
As I write I’m in a train in beautiful Shikoku, Japan. The mountains are a stunning backdrop. My husband Yasu is from Japan, so we don’t know if issues that come up between us are because he is him and I am me, because he’s from Japan and I am from Australia, or because he’s a man and I am a woman. Sometimes, it’s all three! I use my intuition to work it out or if I don’t know where it comes from it sometimes helps me let it go! Lol
The subtle forms of communication that flow between us that are not spoken are sensed intuitively and deepen our connection. This is one of the reasons deepening our intuitive selves supports us in relationships because it helps us feel and honour the subtle.
In Japan, people are very mindful of other people’s space and there are a lot of subtle cultural nuances here I’m only starting to understand after 5 years living here on and off and 25 years with my partner. Being connected to this profoundly fascinating country and its people has helped me to tune into the deeper and more subtle aspects of myself. What part of your life helped you to lean into your intuition? Celebrate that to help you deepen your intuitive capacities even more!
Today we’ve covered the three important aspects of intuitive dating to practice – connecting to yourself, using your intuition and vision for love before you meet people, and using intuition to navigate and sustain relationships as they develop. I would love to hear your thoughts on intuitive dating. Extra points if you come back and comment on how putting these into practice has helped!
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Let your love-light shine and enjoy your journey with intuitive dating!