3 steps to increasing laughter to improve your love life!
Have you ever heard the expression laughter is the best medicine? Well laughter is the best medicine for love, too! The blog this month is around laughter and the absolute magic and power of it change your life. Specifically - I’m talking about laughing in order to help you find love, so let’s jump into 3 steps that will help you do that!
What I mean by increasing laughter, is noting how much we already laugh - with friends, to ourselves, when we watch movies and so on, and consciously increasing that amount to help you meet someone special. Why does this work? We are simply harnessing human nature – we are attracted to joy and connection as it is what we seek!
Who knew that letting loose to laughing with friends, acquaintances, out and about, and even with clients could increase your odds of attracting the partner and relationship that you want?
This month I was a speaker at the Heart-centred Business Conference run by my online business mentor, Tash Corbin. The presentation centred around the idea that laughter is the best medicine for business too! When we laugh, we are attractive to people, have more fun, and therefore attract more high vibe people into our lives. I can imagine that most people want more joy in their lives. So why not join me in beaming love out into the world through bubbles of joyful laughter?
I realised very recently that Joy is one of my most important values! When people say to me that they’ve started a new business, a new job or new hobby, my question is always the same. Is it fun?
When I trained as a laughter yoga instructor quite a few years ago – I intuitively knew it was next for me because I knew that helping people step into more joy was part of my life path. Now, this is absolutely what I help people with. When we’re more in vibrancy, we enjoy and express the truth of our being, and that helps attract wonderful, connectd love! Yayyyy! How does it get any better than that??
When we laugh, we release endorphins and our muscles relax, so Laughing can help reduce stress and anxiety! It builds connection between people, so we lean more into love – this helps us remain in a positive vibe. Remaining predominantly positive is so important in relationships, especially when we are having an off day, or our partner is, so we don’t take it personally.
With laughter, our mood improves, as does our self-esteem. There are so many benefits to laughing – the benefits are too extensive to list them all here, however go check them out online, and marvel at the benefits. This is why they say laughter is the best medicine. When we laugh, we more easily build rapport, express empathy, authenticity, joy, connection and flexibility! So Laughter is the best medicine for love, too!
Many years ago, I used to teach English as a 2nd Language. I knew perhaps I was in the wrong profession when I was more focussed on asking my students what lit them up, what brought them joy and how we could increase that in their lives! Lol
Let’s go over 3 Key Steps for us to welcome increased Joy through adding plenty of giggles and outright laughter to our daily experience!
Step # 1 Choose to increase laughter!
Sounds ridiculously simple, but I have made great progress simply by intending something, because then I am looking for opportunities to make it happen regularly. Making this conscious choice to laugh more often will naturally help those bubbles of joy come up from your depths and out into the world. Expressing your joy in this way will help you step into your authenticity more and truly land on this planet as the vibrant being that you are. That in turn will help you attract your wonderful person towards you!!
In order to do this 1st step, make a decision to find more things funny, to find the humour in everyday life. For example, when I was pregnant with my girl years ago, I had so much brain fog that I put the banana in the compost and was trying to work out why the skin looked weird going into my muslie (muslie is also called granola for our non-Australian friends). I giggled over that one for years! Laughing at ourselves is awesome as it helps take ourselves less seriously and builds our laughter muscles. What’s something funny you did or observed, I would love to hear it! Let me know in the comment section below.
Step # 2 Lean into sharing laughter when the moment calls for it.
Practice this with family and friends before bringing it in on a date w someone new, because you don’t want it to sound forced. Sharing a good laugh is a great, natural part of connecting with people. These opportunities will increase if laughing often is simply how you are in the world – this comes from practise! Say something funny, or let yourself feel free to laugh at funny statements from others, at life’s quirky twists and turns and so on. Eye contact is good for connection when laughing – but modify this if it’s not culturally appropriate with some people.
Step # 3 Choose your own joy/laughter practice.
As I keep saying like the songs I played over and over as a teen, the more you laugh personally, the more it will naturally come into your life. Before we talk about your laughter, or joy practice - I want to share a little bit about laughter yoga.
You may be wondering what an earth laughter yoga is… It’s a series of simulated laughter exercises to help us practice, and increase our capacity for laughter. It was created by Dr Madan Kataria and his wife Madhuri from Mumbai, in India – now there are over 5,000 clubs worldwide! Doctor Kataria found that his patients who laughed more, healed more quickly. I am sure the expression ‘ Laughter is the best medicine’ does not come from LY, but it’s literally true in some cases. Doctor Kataria, his wife and friends laughed at the park, and told jokes very regularly when they first started Laughter Yoga. The jokes got old, and not so funny anymore - so then they started putting simulated laughter exercises with breathing and movement.
The difference..
When I did my laughter yoga instructor training, I was very surprised to find out that the body doesn’t know the difference from laughing spontaneously, and when you laugh because you’ve simulated it. How cool is that? Simulated laughter is different from fake laughter so go to a laughter yoga club and check it out, or look it up online and laugh along with the person running the session. (it can feel ‘fake’ at first, but you get used to it)
Pub Med Central states that laughing with other people can increase social connectedness and bonding, as well as strengthen relationships. It’s also linked to feelings of security and safety, allowing a person to feel more relaxed. No wonder it’s so magnetic to us when someone laughs easily and often!
Your Joy Practice
Take some time to choose your joy practice now. Choose 1 thing that will bring more laughter into your daily experiences. This could be following someone doing Laughter Yoga on You Tube, it could be journaling daily or weekly on what you found funny, or even stepping away from the idea that things have to be funny in order for us to laugh, and writing down what made you laugh.
For an extra challenge, add more simulated laughter into social situations to see if it becomes catching and spontaneous could be fun, but it’s not for everyone. Search online for catching laughter situations, there’s a very famous one where someone randomly starts laughing on a train and everyone unintentionally joins in! Write down your joy practice now. Send me an email on shannon@welcomelastinglove.com if you feel like sharing your plan, you get bonus points when you email me a 2nd time and tell me how it goes!
Until next time, have an extra laugh on me, and let your love light shine! x