How to release your ex…
Are you wondering how to let go because even though you thought your person was the right one, they ended up being the wrong one?
Hi gorgeous – it’s so hard grieving a relationship that you really wanted to be in your life. And even when you now know that this person was not right for you, and you know that because of all the things, it’s still so hard to let go. You ask yourself why, and ask why you the communication between you was not solid. You wonder how it all went so wrong so quickly. You wonder what you could have done differently.
The answer is nothing. You put your best self forward! You are a gorgeous, loveable, loving and amazing being!
Today’s blog is all about letting go of the wrong one and releasing your ex.
It’s a guide for you to use to implement the steps, and to feel all my love. Let’s help you come to a place of knowing you are whole, good, and simply wonderful - no matter what happens. It doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, it totally does - but still, you are strength and beauty! You can feel all of these full on feelings and get through this.
What’s just happened (or happened ages ago)?
You tried everything – and now it’s over. Perhaps you knew the whole time that this one wasn’t the right one for you but you fell hard anyway.
For some of us we thought this was the one – the bells and whistles and everything. And then one day it was over. The heartache is excruciating – so bad. For me, sometimes I felt like it was as if somebody had died – but this person was still alive! He just didn’t want to be with me…
I think this kind of heartache is indescribable and so personal to each of us, we feel it so differently. This Leunig poem has always touched me in the hard times. “Let it go. Let it out. Let it all unravel. Let it free, and it will be, a path on which to travel”. https://www.leunig.com.au/works/poems
When I experienced a deep heartache I raged around, singing Alanis Morrissette songs and feeling like my life was meaningless. You may be going through something similar now or perhaps the echoes of that time in your life are making it hard for you to be open to the vulnerability of sharing your heart again.
Why let go?
Why is it important to let go? Because you want to find the person that you do want to spend your time and create a beautiful life together with. Someone who feels that way about you, too and you both thrive in that love. (Note - of course us humans are well, human, so I always say we find someone who’s brand of ‘difficult’ is still positive and healthy to be with).
You don’t need to let go right now. It’s like when you lose a job or if someone passes away everyone’s expecting you to ‘get over it’. It’s completely ridiculous as grieving, and morning, are absolutely essential and we do need the time and the space to do that.
How to let go
Here are some steps for you to follow during this process.
1. Connect with people who will actually listen – not the ones who tell you to get over it but the ones who let you have time to talk about it. They listen, without judgement and with a loving and open heart. Some friends don’t have the capacity for this – they will just talk over you, or change the subject, tell you about the time they felt something similar, or tell you to let go immediately. Those friends can’t hold you right now, so lean into different ones who can. We are out there so expand your social circles if these kinds of friends are not in your world right now.
2. Spend time in nature, she is the greatest healer there is.
3. Download your free ‘release your ex’ video from my website and follow the steps xx
https://www.welcomelastinglove.com/
What now?
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