The 2 biggest love blocks

The 2 biggest love blocks and how to release them… 

Do you find that you keep attracting dates and even partners that don’t resonate with the ultimate vision you have for your life in one form or another? Today’s blog post is about love blocks - the 2 most common ones I see, and how to release them.

I know that for some, even finding someone they are remotely interested in is a real challenge and leaves people feeling disappointed, unmotivated to take action, and even quite numb. You may have been on dates, had friends introduce you and even tried online dating but the experience was underwhelming. Due to that experience and other factors such as the models of loving relationships you saw as a child, at some level, you feel like it’s just not going to happen and you may as well give up.

You could have some love blocks that are either obvious or hiding in the wings that are stopping you from manifesting what you want to have in your love life. Issues such as a lack of self-love and self-worth, past relationship baggage, and lifestyle slumps can all contribute to these blocks taking hold and not releasing in the natural course of living. This in turn can make it harder to visualise what you want and go about adopting the action steps and mindsets that can super charge your results.

What on earth are love blocks? Here are two of the most common love blocks I see in my coaching practice and a guide of how to release them.

1.     Sneaky leaky limiting beliefs

This looks like an idea or thought that feels completely true but you have a sneaking suspicion that it might not be the case, and could actually be stopping you from finding love. These are sneaky as they can be conscious, semi-conscious or completely not in your conscious awareness at all. You may even feel like it is 100% true and have no idea of how much of an impact it’s having on your results! Naturally, these beliefs were created for a reason which was to keep you safe at a certain point in time. But if they are not serving you now, it might be time to thank them and let them go.

Here are some common ones: all of the good ones are taken, people my age have too much baggage, all men are bastards, I am too picky/set in my ways, I am not worthy of the kind of love I want, there is no one I am interested in living in my location, I need to be thinner, wealthier or happier before I am truly open to finding love, and so on.

2.     Ferocious and feathery fears

It’s totally natural to have fears – especially after all you have been through! You may have been hurt in love you may have put your heart on the line and been bitterly disappointed, rejected and possibly worse. Beautiful being – that these things happened is not your fault. Yes you learnt much in the process but let’s step away from the blame game. These fears can be as ferocious as a wild animal and they could lash out so you do not dare to face them. They can also be feathery - just there, just stopping you but insidious none the less.

Here are some common ones: fear of opening up again, fear of being vulnerable, fear of being seen, fear of getting hurt, fear of losing love, fear of stepping outside your comfort zone.

How to release limiting beliefs and fears: I suggest regularly doing mental and emotional clearing work in order to loosen up the hold these blocks have on us. I call this emotional maintenance. We maintain our cars, our bodies - why not our minds and hearts? I notice I am much narkier with my family when I fall off the wagon of getting my regular emotional maintenance booked in and done. Some focussed practices, community support and even professional support is so valuable.

Make sure you check out EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) online. You can literally type into any video streaming service ‘EFT for limiting beliefs’ or any of the above examples and tap along with the person who created the video. (Tapping is a form of tapping on the face and body to clear the stuck energy around emotions and thoughts – it’s totally amazing and has been proven to be very effective time and time again).

Another thing I recommend to people is to take your belief, or fear, out into nature and let the immense beauty and energy of our planet help you transform it. I sometimes give it to the waves in an ocean swim, or send it down deep into mama earth to transform it in her molten lava. I do these actions with great reverence and gratitude for the support our earth provides us in this way.

Partnering with a love attraction coach can be really supportive for you to reach your goals when you want to turn your life around. It’s my absolute joy to sit with you online or in person (or walk with you if you live in the Sunny coast, QLD, Australia!), and listen to your situation with deep empathy - I can be your guide as we gently navigate and release the blocks and put a proactive plan in place with steps to follow going forward.

Do you feel that you need a guide, a helping hand, and accountability in this area?

Make sure you get in touch by booking a free, 30  minute block clearing session to discuss your current situation, totally alter a block that is in your way and allow for more flow and ease in manifesting what you want in your love life! Go here to do that: https://LoveAttractionCoachingwithShannon.as.me/

In the comments below, let me know, what is one thing you will do as a result of reading this blog? Bonus points when you pop back and tell us how it went!