Love Abundance
Do you ever wonder what mindset and energy would help you level up your love-life? Today’s blog is all about Love Abundance, as an energy and mindset I recommend - it is a leap of faith for many, and I think it is a necessary leap!
What is Abundance in Love? It goes like this: Love is infinitely Abundant! Infinite self-love, an abundance of gorgeous people to meet, infinite curiosity about yourself, new people and your partner when you chose to create a life with someone!
Why is this Love Abundance important? Because going from a state of believing in scarcity abundance completely opens up your energy and your experience! This shift can absolutely change results. I have had clients feel there’s literally no one available that they would like, and who would be into them too. When they move into Love Abundance, lovely people rock up out of nowhere, or they have a few to choose from and even end up in love and committed to someone!
It’s also particularly important at this time because the energy of 2024 is all about Abundance and reaping the rewards of the work we have done on ourselves up until this point. It’s time to take the energy of 2024 by the hand and dance with it! As Dr Alicia Jackson states in her blog, the numbers in 2024 add up to it being ‘an 8 year’ in numerology. The number 8 is often associated with infinity and abundance! https://www.analogearthhealinghubb.com/post/embrace-the-infinite-the-significance-of-2024-as-a-year-of-abundance
Why not apply the energy of the number 8, the infinity and Abundance energy, to Love?
Now that we’ve chatted about the what and why, here is the very important how! Stop seeing the location where you live as devoid of potential partners - can you be absolutely certain that there is nobody living just around your corner that you want to meet? Question this idea even if your experience up until now has seemed to prove that there’s no one out there.
I am sure you have heard this belief, ‘all the good ones are taken’. It may even feel completely true. I remember before I had kids at it took so many years to get pregnant I had the belief ‘maybe it’s just not mean to happen for me’. It’s so painful to believe something like that and very hard to shift out of it if you don’t have an inkling that it maybe not the case.
Is it true that there are ‘good ones’ and ‘bad ones’? When you shift your thinking to focussing on good and bad behaviour, rather than good or bad people, it takes out the idea that any one person is one kind of energy always. This is helpful once you are dancing with relating every day with your partner as they may do something very hurtful but still be essentially a good person! It can take a judgemental edge out interacting with people, and help us relax into being curious and open. (Needless to say when we meet people we don’t want in our energy field, we can intentionally not be open, but that is a chat for a different day!).
Another way you can lean into Love Abundance is to let go of the idea that there’s one person out there for everyone. Yes, just one! It’s a beautiful idea, but misguided and untrue! My man is such an incredible human and it’s hard to imagine anyone being as perfect for me as he is. However – I was in love before, before I ever met him. I thought that my ex was ‘the one’ too! He wasn’t, as it turns out - but he certainly was the one for me at that point in time. Ironic, considering I am an attract love coach that I don’t really believe in ‘the one’ person for everyone. I am meant to be into spiritual connections and romance – and I am! I am also practical, and very aware of energetics, so I know that it’s limiting us to believe in just one person for everyone.
Parents out there will relate with this - when your child has a best friend but you want them to branch out in case they get hurt! What if their friend moves away, or they have a terrible falling out? Sure the connection was amazing, strong, solid, even a soul contract from another time and place, but it seems that it’s over now.
There are most definitely soul connections, soul contracts, soulmates, twin flames and the like – however, if you have a belief that there’s only one person out there for you, what happens if they live in outer Mongolia? Wouldn’t it be more abundant believe that there are infinite possibilities of love around every corner? That does not mean you date anyone and everyone but it does mean that your energy is open, you’re curious about the humans you meet and what makes them tick. There are an abundant amount of wonderful peeps to get to know!
If it feels too far out for you at this time, it's time to journal, meditate, draw - whatever feels amazing and resonates with you. This will help you process things deeply so you step into the energy and beliefs that will serve you, rather than hinder you from finding your lasting love partner! I know that when things feel scary it’s so, so hard. Particularly when you don’t know where to meet people, when your time on the apps just seems to prove that there’s no one you could possibly be keen on and visa versa. You may have days where you attempt to smile at people in the street and it seems like no one is smiling back. This fear can show up dating apps - if you resonate with that way of meeting people.
I have clients and friends that are getting to know someone online but then they realise they are not actually willing to travel as far as the person lives. Meeting up with them, whether you'd like to hang out a bit more or not, just increases the resentment you already feel and reinforces the scarcity that seems so real! So a way to avoid this is to truly tune in to what you want. Are you willing to travel to meet people and ultimately, start a relationship with someone? Do you want someone active, intellectually interesting. What qualities in people light you up when you meet them?
Abundance is also about connection because connection helps us feel good. When we feel more good, we become more abundant – because while abundance is a mindset, it’s also a feeling – a state of being. Build on your connection with yourself, others and to the world. When we level up in one area of connection, we level all areas up. The abundance of love you feel through connection with friends, with strangers on a train, or at a party is all good and builds your Love Abundance muscles!
Tune into the abundance that you feel with mother Earth and her incredible sparkling creation at every turn you take. Connection to yourself and the abundance of how deep you can go and how much you can learn about yourself to truly incarnate and land on this planet at this time here on Earth. Our beautiful source energy is our expression of the gorgeous Divine – let’s all revel in that which lifts up our energy! This kind of vibe, or state people can get into is very attractive and magnetic!
Having that connection to yourself amplifies your beauty so that everyone around sees it. This will help love feel easy, free flowing and lush as more wonderful people to meet come into the orbit of your energy field. Enjoy the connection with the dates you go on – even those that you don’t want to get to know further. Use those micro connections to help you expand in curiosity in other humans, and in an abundant feeling of joy from and with others. The laugh, the shared experience of life in some small aspect as you talk can be fun even when it’s not forever! Then, enjoy the connection you feel with someone special that you choose to spend more of your precious time with and get to know with a view to a future together.
In the comments below please let me know one way you want to expand on a feeling of Abundance that will level up your love life. I am so curious to hear what you have to say!
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I can’t wait to see your love light shine as you step into Love Abundance!
Love Shannon