Proactive Vs. Passive
Proactive Vs. Passive
When it comes to attracting a loving, connected life partner, are you willing to do whatever it takes? Do you know the power of committing to something FULLY?
Some ppl go on lots of dating apps, run local singles groups, write their list and even make space for ‘their person’ in the shoe rack. Some chill back in their current life and comfort zone and say ‘ if it’s meant to happen, it will happen’ – giving less energy to attracting lasting love then they do to booking their next weekend away…
Being proactive vs passive is what we will explore today…(hint: a beautiful balance of both is what we are after!
Let go and let flow
Today I want to share with you how effective it is to be proactive in creating the life that we want – and, that stepping into sweet surrender to be able to ‘let go and let flow’ is also essential. Many think these two things are opposite, but we can explore them at the same time!
I was gifted
I was given incredible examples by my parents, so I am blessed with knowing that being a powerful action-taker works. Let’s go on a little ride through my foundations – my family, to discover the magic of being proactive. LOL - maybe my sparkly floating soul knew I’d be a love attraction coach when I was choosing my family!
What’s it got to do w you?
You may wonder what these stories have to do with you attracting love but they have EVERYTHING to do with it! Transfer them to your own situation and get creative about just how proactive in love you can be!
My Dad
My dad suffered for many years from alcoholism - he did oodles of inner work to move through it. Counselling, rebirthing, group work, Aikido, Yoga, the study of Ki and deep explorations into physical movement. He now facilitates some of these things and positively influences our culture daily. He is profoundly into change making and I’m so proud to be his daughter.
My Mum
When I was 9, mum took us on an extended overseas adventure – as a single mama she worked full time and saved like crazy for years. The dynamic academic career she has had since, tells me that she knows the power of being an action-taker. I’m so lucky to be her daughter and have been raised by such a proactive, intelligent and wonderful woman. Even though I didn’t really appreciate the 45th castle I saw in Europe as I was 9, I am glad we went!
My Step-dad
My stepdad ran a national organisation focussing on gaining affordable housing for low income earners with skill, love and integrity. He has a very loving heart and saw how his skills would be useful - so he negotiated with local, state and federal government for people who needed it. I’m so blessed to have him in my life.
Us
Having had these wonderful examples of how taking powerful action works, when my partner and I had problems conceiving a child, I was a millionpercent committed to doing whatever I had to do to welcome a bub! We detoxed, green juiced, had acupuncture, moxibustion, went on a Chinese herbal protocol, and even stopped being vegetarian to fall pregnant!
Although I know that I am very lucky and that destiny, the Universe or whatever you would like to call it does play a strong hand in these things, I also know the power of everything we did. We got there naturally after three long years. (Yes, it happened, right after we umm, ‘gave up’ and started mentioning adoption… did I mention the surrender bit?)
You
Energy follows energy so when you want the Universe to support you, you need to show complete commitment, and to be as dedicated and excited as you possible. What does that look like for you? Do you need to make your dating profile resonant and magically you? Or break up with that person that you just know is not right?
I understand
I understand you because I have chased something I wanted but just couldn't reach before. I wanted it so badly that when people said "just forget about it and it will happen", I wanted them to stuff off because you simply can’t forget something you want with all of your heart! I intuitively knew they were partly right. When people tune into a part-truth it can't help but rub us up the wrong way. The part they had right was that I needed to surrender into flow - but we can only truly do that after we are fully proactive.
I am the best person to help you because I know how to encourage action and surrendering at the same time. Also how to transform what holds you back. This is what's needed for your success! If my partner and I hadn’t been able to conceive naturally at that point I would have known I had done everything, absolutely EVERYTHING that I possibly could’ve done.
For those who didn't end up becoming a parent but wanted to…
I’m sending love and care to those reading who wanted to, but didn’t end up, becoming a parent. Thank you for nurturing other kinds of babies into the world. Fur babies, gardens, books, businesses, positions at work, spiritual practice. You are valued aunties, uncles or friends - that contribution is also such an important and valid gift!
The perfect pair
I work with singles who want to find the right person to build their future with. One of the most important things is the power of being proactive, and then of course the second step is the power of letting go. Proactivity and passivity (surrender) are the perfect pair. When we do both, success comes so much more easily. Almost as easy as enjoying a hot choccy on a cool day!
The journey
We cover your vision, exactly the kind of person you want and the kind of life you want to cultivate – as well as the steps to bring it into being. We transform beliefs that are not helpful and help you to express your unique wonderful self! The second step is to let go and let flow - but first, we get you into some tenacious and dedication action!
Decide to welcome love!
There are so many other things I do with clients on the journey to love – what I am emphasising today the most is making a decision to be successful. This is the only way to go, as love comes very slowly, of at all, to those who wait.
There are many very wealthy and successful people in this world who talk about making a decision to be a millionaire, not hoping to be one. It is the exact same philosophy in attracting lasting love, you don’t hope to meet Mr or Mrs Right down the track - you make the decision go out and attract someone wonderful.
So, don’t hope you meet someone, decide to! Marry being proactive and stepping into surrender and watch the magic happen. I am so excited to support you on your journey!!
Great Love, Shannon xxx