Your life is a wildly wonderful birthday cake…(self-love recipe inside..)
Have you ever wondered how to build self-love? (Self-love being famous for helping us attract an amazing love connection, after all!) This blog is all about how you can celebrate you by practicing a self-love recipe for your ‘life-cake’ to awaken worthiness. When we love ourselves first, our cup is full and then we can love others with an open and free heart.
Birthday Month
I especially love the Stevie Wonder and the Beatles Birthday songs – and they make me think of cake! I often talk to clients about how life can be seen as a Birthday cake and they just need to focus on it being wildly wonderful! July is my birthday month so I had a gorgeous time celebrating with friends and family. I also took time out which was amazing.
Here is the recipe for your own special cake. Cooking being a create process, have fun with it, change some ingredients and a bit of the method to make it uniquely yours!:
Ingredients: Visioning, deciding, refining, practicing, self-care, self-love, worthiness, support, proactivity, slow flow, and fun. Method: Mix with buckets of care and oodles of tenderness. Place in your life and enjoy. Welcome the icing(your life partner) by being proactive and gentle simultaneously when you are ready!
What do I mean when I say your wildly wonderful birthday cake?
I love to refer to our lives as a cake and the icing on the cake is the wonderful and gorgeous partner you are attracting into your world. The cake is essential – your icing is wonderful, yummy, divine – but not essential. The idea is not to spend all your time focusing on the icing – the idea is to make an incredible cake for yourself. The icing does need to be focused on too, it’s just not the main event.
Celebrating yourself and putting effort into self-love and care are essential. I was listening to The Melissa Ambriosini Show podcast recently and she was chatting to Lacy Phillips who said something like powerful manifestation is when our self-worth aligns to what we want. I couldn’t agree more! So how can you align your self-worth to what you want?
A wildly wonderful life
Self-worth alignment happens as you build your cake. Perhaps it is full of incredible super foods that are both delicious and vibrantly life-giving. Perhaps your cake is very decadent, rich and full. One ingredient that’s essential is care for yourself. A lot of people talk about self-care and it’s a bit of an overly thrashed subject – but there’s a reason for that! When we look after and care for ourselves, we are not reliant on others to do that for us. We come from a place of fullness rather than lack - fullness is much more magnetic!
What you do want is to deeply feel into your desires and vision for your life and then take the steps to get there! When we have passions and joy in life we are more interesting and interested in others. This can make the dating process easier and much more fun! This doesn’t mean pretending challenges, sad moments, frustrations and the like don’t exist – it simply means we have done some deep enquiry into what lights us up and we follow that.
Being gentle is key
How can we also be gentle on ourselves? It’s a fine line to tread, reaching for our very best lives and choosing the finest ingredients for our ‘cake’ – at the same time as being gentle on ourselves. How is it possible that we can both be perfect as we are, and also be reaching for our very best lives? It’s totally possible, we just need to hold those two truths together with love, caring and empathy.
What does proactive plus gentle look like?
For me this looks like tracking my habits such as doing yoga, exercising and even quality time with my family. The gentle part is having two days a week where I don't track anything and mostly do what I fancy. For you it may mean daily journaling, regular gym visits and green smoothies. Maybe the gentle bit for you is regular massages and Friday nights off with girlfriends. We are all different and that deep enquiry into our desires and needs helps us put the things in place for living our very best lives.
Back to your wildly wonderful cake…
How can you make your cake wildly wonderful!? Perhaps you’ve always wanted to dance but you just haven’t chosen to prioritise that in your life. What kind of dance are you interested in? Would you like to go to classes or do you want something more free form? Perhaps you’ve always had a desire to go travelling but you’ve just been focused on other things…. I suggest to start your travel plans now. If you want to meet a traveler and you yourself has not stepped into that part of your dreams, it will be harder to meet someone who is a vibrational match to what you want.
Hmmm maybe some icing now?
Yes, your ‘icing’ (your loving and connected life partner) is important - as a love attraction coach, that’s exactly what I’m helping you to get. Your icing is such a delicious addition which just makes your cake so incredible and helps you expand (not in the way real cake does, lol. I am talking about the energetic expansion of a positive, loving partnership here). It’s much easier to create a beautiful sweet healthy and yet enriching icing on your cake once you have things the way you want them to be.
My 48th Birthday…
This year I wasn’t sure if I wanted to celebrate my birthday, I felt a bit despondent because I worried that doing something was too much hard work, however doing nothing didn’t feel celebratory or honouring of the day of my birth either. So I decided to reach out to couple of friends and it was really special because I shared what I wanted and ppl gathered around and just made it happen. What does that look like in your life? How do you celebrate you?
Build your cake with support…
Cooking is soooo much more fun with others! Doing the inner work required to release any blocks that are in your way is essential – in your free block clearing session, we shine the torch of love on an area that may need your attention to free up the energy. Doing this lets more light, and love, in. Book here - https://LoveAttractionCoachingwithShannon.as.me/?appointmentType=45289457
If you are keen to have a cake that includes that wonderful icing, make sure you know what you want in love! The Visioning session is amazing for this – book here https://LoveAttractionCoachingwithShannon.as.me/?appointmentType=45430025
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I am soooo excited for your creative expression in trying out this recipe. I cannot wait to see your cake. I have 100% knowing that you can create and have what you want in life and love, too! Remember, invite me to the wedding gorgeous!