The 3 Love Attraction Keys!
What does the expression ‘lean into love’, mean to you? When you hear it, do you feel contracted, neutral, or expanded? It doesn’t matter which one it is, but it’s important to note how the expression affects you.
I think choosing to lean into love nurtures our love lives, creates happier moments, deepens relationships and raises the consciousness of humanity. In fact, it’s one of the 12 key steps I can take you through on your journey to lasting love. In today’s blog I am illustrating how all of us, single or otherwise can lean into love by living our best lives (cliché, I know) paying attention to our inner game, and by consciously sending love to all we meet!
The message
My goal in doing the work that I do, sharing these blogs, stepping up in my public speaking capacity and in life generally is to touch all who listen and everyone they know to lean into love. You are essential to this work because I care about you creating a life where love is naturally abundant and joy is often! If you are wondering what on earth a love attraction coach does, I support people through one-to-one coaching, classes, workshops and retreats (well, this one does anyway!). It’s so much fun!
My Journey
People often ask me how I came to do this work, well - they say we teach what we most need to learn! Leaning into love is something I have been practicing my whole life. When I was a child I went to nine schools, possibly more. I was always the new girl - I would be welcomed, but as the transient outsider.
You
I am sure part of your story resonates with part of mine. So many of us feel on the outer, like we don't belong here or that everyone but us has ourselves together! (Thanks Insta culture – I do love the fun and ease of connection on Insta, but the pretence of perfection gets a bit much). Come hang out there if u want: https://www.instagram.com/shannon.ichikawa/
And for you, how does your journey effect how easily you join in, be social, talk to people you don’t know? These are some skills that can be built as they most certainly help when it comes to meeting wonderful, switched on people that you may even want to date and possibly even build your future with!
Being friendly (Key #1)
I realised that it was really important to be friendly and open-minded. People can feel that genuine connection so I always had friends wherever I went. At a bus stop several years ago I ended up chatting to a woman my age, and she’s still my friend to this day! This skillset means I know many people as I make my way around the coast. The experiences I had as a child fill me with gratitude, because they gave me a true understanding of the power of being optimistic, friendly and positive, which are some of the traits I support my clients to nurture.
Lean into love
How can we all lean into love even more in our everyday lives? This is an eternal question and, I think deep down we are all striving to answer it. Practise and repetition can make things easier, so here are some ideas for us to try out.
Street Connection
Smiling at people in the street is an oldy but a goodie. I still find it challenging as sometimes I feel rushed, or shy, or I presume they don’t want to connect. Fear of rejection is also at the heart of shying away from this interaction, which is an issue that we can work with and clear. We can extend this practice to the supermarket check-out person, in other situations, even to the trees outside! (That last one is a quantum leap into the woo for some and for me and many of my peeps it’s like, “yes of course, some of my closest friends are trees!”).
Small act of compassion
I love how Dr Alex Lickerman calls it a ‘small act of compassion’ in his Psychology Today article I found online. He says these small acts can make us more compassionate as a whole which I think helps us give and receive love more readily in our relationships and in life.
Where we came from
When we were growing up, there was this idea that children should be seen and not heard, which created a whole lot of trauma – as did the general level of unconscious child raising that was being done at the time. Mental and emotional maintenance is essential in the world we currently find ourselves in - because the pace is fast, the learnings are many and the patterns and traumas are real.
Journey to easy love
When I was 19 year old, I went on a journey from choosing very stressful, difficult partners to choosing the opposite. For my birthday, my Dad gave me a transformational retreat. A month where daily, we reviewed inner thoughts, beliefs and patterns and began to transform them with world class inner work facilitators and modalities! I came out of that retreat knowing I was worthy of the love I was seeking. The next boyfriend after that very first retreat was so easy to be with. He had issues, like the rest of us, but not extremely destructive, debilitating ones.
Emotional Maintenance (Key #2)
Regular mental and emotional maintenance is one of the most effective ways that we can release the valve of stress and patterns, thereby leaning into more love and joy! Basically, choose the practitioners and modalities that resonate with you. A coach, therapist or practice where you can actually feel changes taking place are the ones to go for (maybe all three!).
Attract Love by living your best life! (Key #3)
I support people to focus on their inner game in my coaching practice to release blocks in the way of them attracting love. I do this though empathetic listening, rapid results coaching, EFT tapping and a quirky quantum technique called Matrix Reimprinting. I’m so excited about that my kitchen bench will be full of wedding invitations one day soon – will yours be one of them?!!
One of The Best Ways you can be energetically open and ready for love which will make it easier to bring it into your orbit is by living your gorgeous, lit up, sparkly and wonderful life!
I’d love to hear about how you’re going to do that for yourself.
What’s your one leaning in action today?
In today’s blog we have been on a journey about the power of conscious friendliness, intentional work on our inner game and living a yummo life. What one action do you want to implement today to help you increase your ability to lean into love? I encourage you to decide what action you will try, will you smile at people in the street, get some support on your inner game, start yoga or something else - make a choice to actually do it, go out there and enjoy leaning into love!
Send me an email to tell me what your one action is and how that’s going to shift your current results - I can’t wait to hear!